Daily affirmations of a word mercenary
Let’s talk about body hair. I am a fastidious leg waxer. This has often caused confusion for people around me, especially when I had dreadlocks. Weren’t dreads supposed to mean that I was politically opposed to the systematic oppression of women via leg hair?
Sadly, no. The dreads just meant that I wanted hair I could tie in knots and dangle things from. I don’t like the way leg hair feels. One winter, I let it grow out for three months. I got out of the shower one morning, walked across the room, and felt the wind whistling through the leg bristles. The madness had to stop.
I think the whole leg hair thing is also very confusing to those around me because, as much as I care about my legs, I simply don’t care about my armpits. I thought maybe moving to Los Angeles would change this — that maybe the scorn would be too much for me. I imagined this conversation taking place behind my back:
Queen1: Oh my god! Did you see her pits?
Queen2: [looks, gasps] Maybe she’s a sloppy trannie?
Queen1: Oh no, girl, if that was a trannie, you know she’d shave that shit.
Sadly, even this paranoia has not been able to incite enthusiasm for depilitating my under-arms. Let ‘em talk. At least I don’t have blooming pit rashes.
Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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*b.
November 22nd, 2002 at 7:47 pm
i think my favorite thing about this is that you imagined a conversation between gay guys about your armpits, and it sounds believeable!
Sam
November 22nd, 2002 at 11:41 pm
Eminently believable.
Oddly, I’ve been shaving my underarms for years. I hated getting the hairs pinched in my arm when I moved about. I’ve never bothered with my legs, though — them things is *furry*!
(and yes, I have a Y chromosome.)
Imperfectionist
November 23rd, 2002 at 1:15 am
I’m a guy and i shaved everything once. Armpit hair, leg hair, p**** hair, etc. The roughly shaved armpit hair left stubbles which like poking itself. yuck. haha
Suz
November 23rd, 2002 at 7:37 am
I totally agree about the leg hair-they must be shaved. I once let my pit hair go natural, but all I could smell was my own odor after it got long. I think I am extra stinky. So in order that I might partake in odors other than my own, I shave dem pits.
Matt Threeonethree
November 23rd, 2002 at 9:08 am
I hate hair. Hate it. I’ve not had hair on my head for over two and a half years now, and have been clean for the ladies for over two. When I used to be runner, I shaved my legs. Since I don’t run anymore, however, I do have man-legs again… but if given the choice, I’d stick with eyebrows and nosehair only. Y’know, some say that hair is the next thing that evolution is to leave us without.
Jason
November 23rd, 2002 at 9:30 am
Freaks & deviants aside (tho’ that’s probably at least half of us here!), I wouldn’t underestimate the the extent to which the male viewpoint has been internalized by both males & females (ie, females should be smooth, etc.). I think we should more than welcome recognition of and resistance to the social construction of genderedness…. Not to wag a finger at women who shave, but do you really do it cuz you just ‘like being smooth’? Why don’t an equal percentage of men do the same to their legs & armpits? Yeah, men & women are both trapped by this…but I tend to come down on the side of ‘natural is good’ — and say that the hair’s supposed to be there. (And yes, I do have a beard….)
paisley
November 23rd, 2002 at 10:03 am
i love body hair except when it decides to grow outta my chin .
then , i get girly about it..
Ariel
November 23rd, 2002 at 12:11 pm
Suz, I agree that the longer armpit hair gets, the more it stinks. I think it might be designed to do that, a “holder of the pheromone-laden musk,” perhaps? Regardless, it’s part of why I don’t let mine grow all the way out…they’re usually somewhere between .2 and 1 cm. And yes, you WILL be tested on this later, everyone.
Jason, while you may be right (the “unconscious internalization” argument is one my mother and I have gotten into many times), I’ve got a different theory: when you shear yourself, your skin is more sensitive. Without the hair there (where-ever there may be) your skin is able to get direct stimulation from whatever it comes into contact with. Once you get used to that feeling, it definitely feels a bit strange when you can’t feel with that skin anymore. I think this is the primary reason for both male and female cha-cha shaving, and holds true for my legs, too. They just FEEL more when they’re hairless. And, ever a sensation junkie, I like that.
So while yes, it may have been patriarchal pressure that got me to shave my legs the first time (his name was Jeremy Mehlert, and he was in my 7th grade gym class), once I got used to being able to feel with my leg skin, it was a sensation I’ve continued to chose.
Jason
November 23rd, 2002 at 4:12 pm
Yes, we are supposed to have a scent! I appreciate y’all’s candor here, but I’m not sure my take on armpit sweeteners would be appreciated by most.
And as for sensation junkies - and I love the term - I guess it depends on what you’re willing to do for stimulation…. I can think of many less benign things, of course. I’ve shaved my head a few times (and my legs as well, come to think of it), and I sure enjoyed the tinglies!
anne
November 23rd, 2002 at 10:58 pm
i prefer the hair to the daily chore that is shaving.
Matthew
November 24th, 2002 at 9:27 am
Nair is for the weak; get a Mach 3. You’ll love it.
Ariel
November 24th, 2002 at 10:58 am
Tia, I recommend this little thang. I reviewed it for Amazon, and loved it so much that I went and bought one of my own.
Bee
November 26th, 2002 at 1:16 am
Beware the smelly pits. My personal theory is that your own pits smell kind of good to you, and smell kind of ok to your lover, but only if you’re down with the whole natural scent thang.
I’m not. In Austin the heat just creates the oooze that makes the stank really stanky. For some people, showering doesn’t cut it.
I’m oh-so-glad my boyfriend shaves his pits.
A new Mach 3, a bar of Pears soap (or Bronner’s Peppermint!) and you’ll be in smoothie heaven. I agree, it’s all about the sensation.
kim
November 27th, 2002 at 7:22 pm
i’m the opposite.. always on the pits, lazy on the legs, in between on other areas.