I have decided that I am a total whiner and need to be gently reminded to shut up when I start complaining about where I live.
What prompted this shift in attitude? Or at least, what prompted this self-derision that ought to result in a shift in attitude but probably won’t because the first step of “admitting you have a problem” is really the easiest to make?
Last night I woke up at 4:45 am. I’m not sure what woke me up, but it wasn’t just a half-awake moment. I was fully awake. As I lay there in bed, I heard a sound. A far-off roaring.
When my mother was visiting, she told me that one night she woke up and could hear the ocean. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that it was probably just cars or a freeway somewhere.
Last night I realized that I was being a cynical turd to have doubted my mother. The nearest freeway is 3 miles away. The ocean is less than a mile.
And so, last night as I lay in bed, I realized that I could hear the surf pounding from my bedroom. There were absolutely no cars going by, and there in the distance was a moderately noisy rumble of waves crashing. I could hear particularly big waves when they hit the sand.
This, dear readers, has forced me to shut my cake hole about where I live. Yes I miss Seattle. Yes I miss my family. Yes I miss my gigs for both The Paper and The Weekly. Yes I miss knowing that everyone’s breasts are real. Yes I miss walking to the grocery store and anything else I might need. But no, I really can’t whine anymore. I can hear the beach from my bed, I can see dolphins playing in the water, I have enough work to pay my bills this month, I have great friends, I have my health, I have an amazing magical boyfriend who likes cooking and doing dirty things. Really, I need to shut up with the whiney thing.
Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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Vera
November 24th, 2002 at 1:15 pm
Word.
ericalynn
November 24th, 2002 at 7:26 pm
i can definitely use some of your positivity right now!
Echo
November 24th, 2002 at 7:42 pm
A great realization before the holiday! Bask in it Ariel!
Choire
November 25th, 2002 at 12:58 am
oh thank god.
uh, i should be thinking the same thing about nyc now, shouldn’t i…
dave
November 25th, 2002 at 7:20 am
“…the first step of “admitting you have a problem” is really the easiest to make”
Well, at least in LA it’s easy. In LA, it’s hip to have a problem and go around sharing it with everyone, and there’s something wrong with you if you’re not in therapy.
paisley
November 25th, 2002 at 8:27 am
bravo!
Suz
November 25th, 2002 at 8:33 am
There’s a true Thanksgiving blessing if I’ve ever heard one!
Nikki
November 25th, 2002 at 10:40 am
Nah, the admiting hurdle is the highest. The doing something about it hurdle is slightly lower, not much, but lower.
Most people never make the first jump, and a scant few make the second jump. But when your negativity starts to irritate yourself, then you really want to jump. Twice.
Leila
November 25th, 2002 at 2:39 pm
“I have an amazing magical boyfriend who likes cooking and doing dirty things”: classic! you are the best. LA is lucky to have you. (which reminds me of that old saying: “smile and the world smiles back.” maybe LA will smile back.)
grammarpixie
November 25th, 2002 at 3:06 pm
‘as I lay in bed’
sorry, pet peeves
Ariel
November 25th, 2002 at 3:12 pm
Grammarpixie, my understanding is that it’s only “lay” if you’re doing it TO something/someone.
Let me review…
Ah, I see that simple past tense of “lie” is “lay.” That shit’s confusing.
Jason
November 25th, 2002 at 3:27 pm
Lie means to recline
Lay means to place or put something
(Lay is transitive - always followed by an object…)
Ariel
November 25th, 2002 at 3:31 pm
That’s what I thought, too, Jason…then I saw this: Important note: The simple past form of lie is the same word as the simple present form of lay. This shared form accounts for much of the confusion between these two verbs.
Jenn
November 25th, 2002 at 3:37 pm
When I lived in Santa Monica, we used to go skinny dipping at 3 am. That makes for some fun.
dave
November 25th, 2002 at 4:59 pm
huhuhuhuh…you said lay. uhuhuuhuhuh.
grammarpixie
November 26th, 2002 at 1:12 pm
of course, if you lied in bed, the context becomes quite different. laid his son in bed is different than getting laid in bed. A truly versatile language, English. Take for example the word fuck.