Daily affirmations of a word mercenary
When I was in pre-school, I became obsessed with answering the telephone. My parents taught me that, if I was going to be a big girl and answer the phone, there were three pieces of information to address:
1) Tell them who I was
2) Ask who was calling
3) Ask who they were calling for
Ever the literalist, I would clamber to answer the phone whenever it rang, using my best 4-year-old secretary voice to say “Hello! ThisisArielMeadowStallings, whoisthis, andwhowouldyouliketoSPEAKto?” as quickly as I possibly could. The word speak got the extra hard, unnatural inflection of someone who really didn’t have any idea what she was saying.
Typically, the response was a friend of my parents’ saying, “Hi, Ariel. This is Susan, and I’m calling to talk to your mom.”
But one summer afternoon in 1980, right before I started kindergarten, the phone rang.
“Hello! ThisisArielMeadowStallings, whoisthis? andwhowouldyouliketoSPEAKto?”
“Hi, Ariel,” said the voice on the other end of the line. And that was all.
I tried again: “Hello! ThisisArielMeadowStallings, whoisthis? andwhowouldyouliketoSPEAKto?”
The voice was being uncooperative. I was getting frustrated, so I tried one more time.
“Hello! ThisisArielMeadowStallings, whoisthis? andwhowouldyouliketoSPEAKto?”
“What are you doing right now, Ariel?” said the voice on the other end of the phone.
I was flustered, but frank. I was an only child doing what all only children do when their mother is wandering around in the garden, and you’re bored: I’d made up some game that involved rocks and sticks or something, and was entertaining myself by making them talk to each other. I was, in other words, playing by myself.
But what I said was this: “I’m playing with myself.”
(Note to parents of pre-schoolers: teach your children the subtle contextual difference between playing by yourself, and playing with yourself.)
The middle-school aged boy on the other end of the phone had clearly hit the jackpot of crank callers, and must’ve been so pleased to say, “Oh, yeah? I’m playing with MYself, too!”
I had no idea what he was talking about, but even then I knew creepy when I heard it, so I did something I’d never done before: I hung up on someone.
Afterwards, my mother explained that some people play jokes with the telephone, and that it was called crank calling.
Then I knew.
Update: It’s worth reading the comments for my dad’s memory tidbit of me on the phone at age 4.
Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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dr. dave
September 30th, 2003 at 9:18 am
ok… now i’m never letting my preschool daughter answer the phone.
anyway… friend of a friend, click, click… i don’t even rememebr how i got here, but your weblog is really spiffy, so i thought i’d leave a note.
i looked at your pictures and still have no idea what you look like. you’re like a chamaeleon or something… that could be like 4 or 5 different people. i’m always the same person… that sucks.
your mo-blog or whatever it is is just so nifty it makes me want one of those stupid phones that takes bad pictures so i can have a bunch of pointless lo-res jpegs of minutae from my own life. too cool.
- doctor dave
DA
September 30th, 2003 at 1:01 pm
I will submit for the enjoyment of your blog reading public my favorite recollection of your pre-school telephone acumen.
I came home one day to find you on the phone. After you’d finished the conversation I asked you who you’d been talking to. Very straightforwardly you replied, “Oh, I’m just arranging my childcare.” And you were.
echo
September 30th, 2003 at 3:06 pm
hahah. Great thanks for enlightening us DA!
heidi
September 30th, 2003 at 3:58 pm
HA! well i’ve seen her arrange her rat care — given the thoroughness and detail, she MUST have started early.
Ariel
September 30th, 2003 at 9:40 pm
I knew I was precocious…but not that precocious. I have no memory of that incident.
shana
October 1st, 2003 at 7:37 am
I was instructed firmly in the opposite; never give anyone my name, and never say that i’m home alone. say “mom’s in the shower” or “she’s unavailable, may i take a message.”
it’s funny - now that i answer the phones at work, I still get suspicious when people ask who i am before they tell me who they are and why they want to know…
Ariel
October 1st, 2003 at 8:04 am
Oh, I never answered the phone when I was home alone. I didn’t spend a whole lot of time home alone when I was four.
Sarah
October 1st, 2003 at 10:29 am
I was fascinated by the phone when I was little. In fact, when touch tone phones came out (how old am I?), I used to try to make up songs with the tones until one day - I actually dialed a number far far far away…..and my dad explained to me that it was costing them a lot of money for me to be composing songs using the phone.
Also, I was baby sitting a little boy (2 years old) who LOVED the phone too. He would pick up the receiver and just chat chat chat away - laughing and mimicking his mother and I. Then, I received a return phone call from the 911 operator saying that they had just received a call from our house and wanted to know if there was an emergency…oops.
jess
October 1st, 2003 at 11:23 am
shana
October 1st, 2003 at 1:25 pm
I was always precocious..
Andy Baio
October 3rd, 2003 at 3:56 pm
Once, I made a prank phone call to 911. I used a couple of mildly bad words, and may have said “fuck.” I don’t remember.
All I remember is hanging up, then the phone ringing right back. I hid in the closet.