Our ceremony is really coming together nicely. We have each of our four birth-parents contributing in some way, and the language feels like the perfect balance of reverant but totally secular and grounded.

Random synchronicity: Andreas and I wrote our vows separately, and each is exactly 119 words long.

Our only problem now is what Tania, our processional vocalist, is going to sing. She’s got a voice that could blow doors down and make grumpy old men break down into a pile of simpering tears, but we’re not sure what she’s singing. Something a capella. Any suggestions?