Daily affirmations of a word mercenary
Looks like there’s another round of chatter in the media about menstruation suppression. You can read my (somewhat old) thoughts on the subject over here.
In reading this article from CNN, the comment that caught my eye the most was this:
Girls learn early on that menstruation is a sign of fertility and femininity, making its onset an eagerly awaited rite of passage.The period is “way over-romanticized,” says Linda Gordon, a New York University professor specializing in women’s history and the history of sexuality.
I’m sorry, what?! What world is Linda Gordon living in? Where are women romanticizing their periods? I wish that there were more women romanticizing menstruation! It might be a step in the right direction. Most women feel a sad sort of resentment/embarrassment about the whole thing.
And only in my mother’s wildest feminist fantasies are girls “eagerly awaiting” their “rites of passage.” Would that this were actually how it were. As someone who actually had a menarche rite of passage (and attended several of my friends’ rites), I can say that we were in the vast, vast minority, and even we were mostly just playing along with our mothers.
Have these people looked at menstrual product advertising targeted at teens? There’s no “eagerly awaited” anything going on there. The focus seems mostly to be on convenience and discretion. Tampons are made to be tiny enough that you can sneak them to the bathroom without anyone knowing. Pads are made to be thin so that you can wear them without anyone knowing. If menstruation were romanticized, tampons would be accessories like cell phone charms.
It’s weird — it’s like in an effort to make an argument for menstrual suppression, the article creates a fantasy world where girls are actually body-positive and ok with their periods. (Thanks to Marisa Karplus for bringing the CNN article to my attention!)
Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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melissa
May 23rd, 2006 at 7:24 am
This is crazy. Has she not stuffed a tampon in her purse/pants pocket/sleeve in the spirit of discretion, making sure to not offend anyone with the thought of her actually bleeding (as I learned)? Does she typically walk with her tampon in her hand, out in the open for all to see as she waltzes to the bathroom (as I might today)? Who are these girls she is talking about? Crazy.
Even for the “Are you there God, it’s me Margaret” crowd, getting the period only meant you were normal, not that you were now celebrated as a woman. Even our gym coach treated it as a thing to keep quiet, since she felt we couldn’t shower after class (which, why not I asked?) and we had to whisper “M” to her as we made our toweled way to the sinks to splash cool water on our underarms and necks (the polite way to bathe).
Another line in the article that got me was, “This redesign is way overdue,” she says. ‘It’s going to be the demise of 21-7.”
The ARTIFICIAL original 21-7 made by birth control pills as it was to be replaced by another artifical menstraution calendar. With very little research done on how women function under normal conditions, it’s so frustrating to watch our strings pulled all the time. I would love to know that women’s health was a priority, but it’s just not.
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tikimama
May 23rd, 2006 at 9:42 am
Actually, I think menstrual period are “over-romanticized” but not by women (who have them) but by doctors and the medical profession in general. The whole notion of female fertility is somehow mystical and sacrosanct–ask any woman who has tried to get her tubes tied at a young age.
I can’t tell you how many doctors have warned me against skipping placebo week (to avoid having a period that month)–it’s seen as DANGEROUS and UNNATURAL! Your earlier post plays directly into this–you’ve cast the role of the period as something that is never to be tampered with, and the body as a temple, HORMONES as evil, etc. There is plenty of medical advice on both sides for this one, so the issue can’t really be purely scientific, it is emotional and maybe spiritual (and therefore, “romantic”). I have lots of respect for my body and for the ideal that it is to be protected, but I think there are limits.
From a personal place, I’m no longer on the Pill as it really stopped being an ideal situation for me. But I don’t think it harmed me, it was “unnatural” only in the same way that taking aspirin, antibiotics, electricity is “unnatural.”
Melissa (oddharmonic)
May 23rd, 2006 at 1:06 pm
I see women romanticizing menstruation occasionally at the menstrual cup community on LiveJournal, but that’s about it.
I’ve seen some menstrual product advertising targeted at teens that seems to be more about the packaging appearance (not necessarily discretion) than the product. In the past few years, my teenage stepdaughter’s friends have requested specific varieties of tampons based on a description of their wrappers. I turned to Google to help me figure out what brand and style they meant before I went shopping for them.
catina jane
May 23rd, 2006 at 3:58 pm
we were just talking about this over at my
friend Daisey’s blog .
my thought’s :
“i understand the wanting not to
have our monthly friend but i think
we do ourselves and our bodies a huge
injustice to tweek it into not bleeding..
we need to go with the FLOW…”
i guess im just a “if God made it that way , let it be”
kinda girl … leghair & periods - woohoo!!
(but shh! i do wax my brows ..)
Blair Peters
May 25th, 2006 at 8:44 am
Ariel, long time no see!
I’ve had four children and my periods are getting heavier, I’m getting more tired, I’m getting older, etc. I went to my doctor a few years ago and she suggested that I go back on the pill in order to prevent my body from menstruating. It sounded so seductive -no more periods. But wait. I am a woman, who for the first time in my life am trying to accept my body as it is with all it’s stretch marks and wrinkles. The human body needs to be honored and valued, especially the female body. I think it is wrong to encourage the women in our society to suppress the natural functions of their body. Sure, it’s no fun having your period, especially when you’re on a romantic weekend away from your kids with your husband -but that’s life. As women, we have to listen to our bodies and embrace the good and the bad. If we don’t do that for ourselves no one else will.
SecretPeach
May 26th, 2006 at 7:36 am
Hey–recently started reading this blog and I like it a lot. I too, do not see the romanticizing of periods–have you seen the commercials for these new feminine products (I can’t remember if it’s for tampons or pads) that are packaged in material that is supposed to make less crinkling and rustling sounds than the regular packaging? When I saw that commercial I thought how horrible, are there actually women out there who are so embarassed to have their periods that they don’t even want other women to hear them opening their tampons in the bathroom?! I hope not!
Margaret
May 26th, 2006 at 4:43 pm
So OK, teenage girls get embarrassed about lots of stuff. Like everything. I’m 16, so I am speaking from the frontline here. Anyway. My personal feeling is that nature intends lots of things that science lets us avoid. Would you encourage women with no resources to have all the babies they end up with, because that’s what nature intends and messing with that is wrong? The evidence that women living outside of modern medicine have far far fewer periods than most women today is fairly compelling. Basically, we aren’t made to have that many periods. We’re built to be nursing or pregnant most of the time. It hasn’t been that long, when you consider how long humans have been in roughly the same formation we are now, since women lived basically constantly either pregnant or nursing. Our species is still trying to deal with the impact on our health of the agricultural revolution and of the huge availability of resources we have today. I see these pills as an attempt to adjust to the way we’re supposed to be.
Sunshine
May 28th, 2006 at 10:09 am
My experience with menstruation has been interesting. Yes, I did sort of romanticize getting a period when I was thirteen and all of my friends got theirs but I did not, then when I was fourteen, fifteen and so on. I never got a period and to this day have never had a spontaneous period (TMI I know). So my experience with menstruation control has been just the opposite. Doctors have always told me that I “needed” to have a period. They have gone to great lengths and many combinations of meds to make it happen. Of course along with not having it often comes infertility which is the case with me.
Just last week in my nursing class we were discussing contraception and it totally blew me away when my instructor said, “we don’t need to have periods”. Immediately my hand flew up and fifty questions came from my mouth, at first defensive ones then confused and resentful ones. What do you mean we don’t have to have periods?
Taking the pill causes menstruation when there is a 7 day break, and it is usually given with the assumption that a woman wants to have or has a natural cycle of 28 days. Last Tuesday was the first time I had heard about continuous cycle pills and I just couldn’t believe it. I’d always heard that women need to shed their lining because lack of doing so puts us at greater risk for endometrial and ovarian cancer… like *ALL* my life I’ve been told this. But evidently that is not the case… if your lining doesn’t build up in the first place.
Interesting that the article is titled, “Lifting the curse”, because you’re right, most girls/women *do* feel that way about it; the way it makes us feel and act, the pain, weakness, cravings, frustration, and high maintenance. I have never heard a woman say, “I can’t *wait* ‘til my period starts”.