Last night I was shuffling through my boxes of journals trying to find a good reading for tonight’s Salon of Shame. I found some doozies, including my Last Will & Testament from 1990, which ended “Don’t cry for me too much — I don’t want you all to suffer. But don’t forget about me either! I always did like to be the center of attention.” It was funny enough. But then, then I re-found a reading that I’d been avoiding for months. Because this, this piece of writing? It’s kind of too much, even for me.
Oh sure: I’m ok reading my rhyming 8th grade insecurity poems and my stories of barfing on dates. It’s fine to read about the boys I was mooning over. But reading a post I wrote on a BBS in 1993 that’s entitled, “How to give a nice blow job”? That’s a little bit much, even for me. Not only is it terribly written, but sex advice from a 17-year-old known for wearing Blossom hats is dubious at best. Plus, the fact that I posted this publicly? Jesus! What was I thinking? (Then again, there are those who would say it was a perfect precursor to Electrolicious, but I’ve learned my lesson: I don’t talk about sex here.)
As I sat there in my basement, reading the posting and cringing at the thought of reading it publicly, I remembered that earlier in the day I’d convinced my father to come to the Salon.
“It’ll be great, dad!” I’d said. “They’re always so much fun! You have to come!”
Shit. I totaly set myself up for this one. I momentarily considered reading the Will & Testament instead of this horrific blow job guide, but then I realized NO! This is what the Salon of Shame is all about! If you don’t cringe when you read it, if you’re not mortified when you think of sharing it with others, then it’s not shameful enough. The public airing of embarrassing writing sets you free! If Dawn could read about losing her virginity to a born-again Christian, then for God’s sake I can read my adolescent guide to fellatio in front of my father! I CAN DO THIS!
PS: If you’re thinking of coming, you better get there when doors open at 7pm. I was already expecting the show to sell out, and that was before we got slogged again.
Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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mark
July 12th, 2006 at 1:52 pm
OMG. I was on the bubble about tonight–a crap load of work looms–but this might have just pushed me over the edge. I’m actually envious–wish I had such an archive of shame to mine. I think I secretly harbored the thought I might run for president one day and thus didn’t write my embarassments down.
Ariel v.
July 12th, 2006 at 2:17 pm
I had a similar revelation as I was looking for my reading for tonight. The one I’ve decided on makes me look like kind of a bitch, and I almost nixed it. I thought, “I can’t read that, it’s so awful!” But then I remembered: That cringing feeling I had as I read the entry? That’s what it’s all about! I’m going to get up on that stage, read this awful (but also hilarious) journal entry, be embarassed and CLEANSED. I can’t wait!
amy.leblanc
July 12th, 2006 at 2:19 pm
i could never. ever. read something like that in front of my dad.
can someone PLEASE do an audio recording of this for you to upload. PLEASE?
esther
July 12th, 2006 at 4:30 pm
If ONLY Seattle and Portland were like 1 hour closer. Man…and I second the need for a “podcast” of this event.
lily
July 12th, 2006 at 11:17 pm
i am so sad we’re missing this one, but we’ll be at the next one…i’m sure it’ll be awesome! i heart salon of shame!
ps - good luck w/ your lasik tmrw. i will think of you as i’m sitting at my desk slaving away…