I’m coming down off a full year of non-stop action. Since last September it’s been a whirlwind of work (remember how I worked straight through every weekend last October?), book writing, and side projects (hooping.org! salon of shame! writers’ workshops!). This summer things slowed down a bit with work and book, but I compensated with three times as many social obligations, text messages, festivals, weekend trips, conferences, campouts, etc.
A month ago, I began to recognize that I was spreading myself too thin. Staying busy and productive and ambitious is awesome, but sometimes I think I’m just addicted to the constant distraction and gratification and it’s not necessarily healthy to run at full-throttle all the time. So I made the conscious decision to slow myself down. Relinquished a few side projects. Scaled back my social obligations. Regrouped a little.
Not that I’m not still busy. This month I’ve got weekly deadlines for Movies.com freelance writing, organizing the Salon, final proof of my book, developing the book’s website, and working my dayjob. But I’ve got way, WAY more time than I did before and it’s really nice … and a little disorienting. When people ask me what I’m up to, they expect a deluge of project reports, and it’s simultaneously refreshing and confusing to say “Not much — how about you?”
I’ve also found that it’s made me even more selfish with my time. Oh, me. I just love hanging out with you! I mean me. We take long showers together. We putter around the house in circles. We take naps and we watch movies. I love being alone with myself, and these days most calls go to voicemail and many emails and texts go unanswered. I guess I’m just in a state of refocusing. It’s kind of delectable.
I’ll close this post with a quote that I stumbled across in my diary:
October 25, 1992
I realized that writing & publishing is my DESTINY! Okay, maybe not Destiny.
Okay, maybe not, but its a feild [sic] with a future for me.
Oh, me. I love it when you’re prescient.
Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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lily
September 14th, 2006 at 10:37 pm
i love you too
hah
xoxo
Ariel v.
September 15th, 2006 at 4:09 pm
Ah you. I love it when you’re precious!
So glad you’re taking some you time. I personally think times like this are necessary refreshment for the next flurry of activity.
Edward
September 25th, 2006 at 12:28 pm
Thank You! I go to a meditation/discussion class once a week. We pick a topic for all to focus on during the week. I choose selfish, because it has been a big factor in me not getting ahead in life. SELFISH was learned more or less as a negative thing growing up. You have shown me how it can be a positive thing. I am one who would give my last dime away, but would I ever put a penny aside for myself? Not as long as I had bills to pay. I should be a little selfish and give myself as much or more than I would give others. If I am happy then the world around me will be happy too.
Thanks!