Daily affirmations of a word mercenary
Yesterday I attended this workshop that was all about finding a balance between technology and soul. For me, that means dealing with my tendency to overuse the internet for all things. Don’t get me wrong: I love the web. It’s given me more amazing things than I could count (quick tally: jobs, friends near and far, book deal, etc) but it’s also taken its toll.
I went into the workshop yesterday saying I’d like to be “More present in the present.” This isn’t just an internet addiction thing. It’s an ADD, monkey-brain, cultural thing too — but the internet sure doesn’t help.
The workshop was definitely more about discussion/exploration than take-away items, but we spent the last hour discussing ways to deal with the frustrations we have with the web, and then making decisions about sustainable ways we could make change.
So, here’s mine: one night a week, I am going to completely unplug from anything with a screen. This means no internet, no sidekick, no watching dvds. I plan to focus instead on the other things I like doing like writing letters, crafting, organizing, dancing, going for walks, cooking and making tea, writing in my paper journal. I might also try picking up some new things to like such as watercolors, scrapbooking, mail art, dance classes, attending lit readings, etc. Regardless, one night a week I’m going to unplug.
Me being me, though … I have to document it. I figure it’s a good way to keep myself on task. Plus, maybe some of my fellow geek/addicts would like to join in? I think I’m going to pick Wednesday night to take off, and then Thursday I’ll share what I did.
Who’s with me?
Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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Jack
January 27th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Sounds like an awesome idea. I’ll give this a go too.
iTony
January 27th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
Sounds like a good idea. definitely there needs to be balance. I think I’ll give it a try too. Good luck.
Maven
January 27th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Oh me too. I get so tired of myself, sitting here endlessly with my laptop.
Summer
January 27th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
I’ve done this at various points and I cannot recommend it enough! I’ve had serious breakthroughs of creativity when I unplug. I can’t wait to hear about your experience!
gwinn
January 27th, 2008 at 5:14 pm
That’s a great idea, Ariel. I’m going to do it too.
amber
January 28th, 2008 at 7:13 am
oh god do i ever need this. i’m in!
michelle
January 28th, 2008 at 9:26 am
you will be amazed at how the stress totally evaporates. i got rid of my tv a week ago, and although i miss it here and there, i’m getting so much much (book) reading and ‘riting done. plus, it gets me outta the house more when i want company.
helenjane
January 28th, 2008 at 11:25 am
Yes, please. I’d like to do this too.
I’ve done media deprivation week with The Artist’s Way and it’s always a huge revelation.
Ms Magic
January 28th, 2008 at 12:17 pm
Time oddly morphs when one unplugs. There seems to be enough sudenly, which is never the case in my real life. I am tempted to follow Michelle’s lead (Hey, Michelle, why the wholesale rejection of tv and how in the world was it accomplished?), but I will attempt to moderate myself Ariel’s way first. Sounds like an excellent plan.
Alyce
January 28th, 2008 at 2:16 pm
@hj: someone just lent me their dogeared copy of that selfsame book, but I’ve been avoiding getting in to it
Currently I go to a knitting group on Thursdays, so I’m fairly unplugged one night a week. Because I work at a computer all day, I only get the benefit from 6pm onward. I think it would be too hard to do on a weekend (non-work day)…
Ellen
January 28th, 2008 at 6:06 pm
Oh my god! My first reaction: how would that be possible, especially with the computer RIGHT IN THE ROOM? Nerve-wracking! Maybe I should try taking a day off, too. (Kind of terrifying?! Eesh!)
michelle
January 28th, 2008 at 7:34 pm
ms magic, i have a book due in two months. i was watching a lot of tv, to the point of messing with my sleep schedule, not to mention my productivity. desperate times call for desperate measures, so i booted the tube. initially i just tried to cancel my (already basic) cable, so i wouldn’t get reception, but comcast said it would jack up my interweb bill…. now if i could only stop emailing and blogging, ha.
megan64
January 28th, 2008 at 10:23 pm
Count me in on it too. Sundays for me.
Elly
January 29th, 2008 at 11:29 am
Huh, I’ve been thinking about this too, but in my typical extreme fashion, it would be complete abstinence from the internet. For me that’s the biggest time-sucker. But I use it sometimes at work so I don’t think I could completely abstain. Maybe once a week is a better idea.
Ariel
January 29th, 2008 at 11:31 am
Yeah, Elly — the idea with our goals was that they were SUSTAINABLE and MEASURABLE. That it wasn’t like, “That’s it! I’m never using the web ever again!” (impossible!) or “I’m being more balanced in when I use the web” (how do you measure that?) … but rather, what’s one small, measurable change that I can actually sustain. I figure one night a week is totally do-able, but still challenging.
domicile
January 29th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
This is a great idea. I need to do this on a night that I spend at home. I already have evenings where I’m out being busy doing non-webby things (flamenco, yoga etc) but I need to find a way to be both unplugged and a bit less “busy”. Of course, my immediate inclination is to think about then documenting what comes out of it, but maybe I’ll try going really low-fi and document in a paper journal for a while and see what happens then… I definitely needed a nudge like this so thanks. And Michelle: awesome bold move sister. Good luck with the final book days!
Owen
January 29th, 2008 at 4:47 pm
Some other good resolutions from the same workshop:
No screen time after 8pm;
8 hours screen time per day max;
Write one (paper!) letter per week.
The best part was how we were asked to communicate them to the group. Statements were made as if we had already been doing these things for a year, and we were expressing our happiness at the positive change they had wrought in our lives.
gwendolyn
January 30th, 2008 at 2:46 pm
I lived without tv for years and I didn’t get a cell phone until last march when I was pregnant. I have only used the phone a few times and that’s it. I do fine with those things, it’s the computer time that is my biggest issue. It’s an addiction. My entertainment (gaming), reading, news and communication with others is all centered around the computer!
A night to unplug and get back into my art is definitely a habit I need to make.
Leif Hansen
January 30th, 2008 at 6:21 pm
Ariel and friends,
Can I just tell you that seeing this post and the ‘me too’ responses has not only made my day, but has made putting on the entire workshop even more worthwhile. Thank you!
Sometimes, despite the ridiculous and massive press coverage we’ve received, I get the feeling that ‘nobody gets it’. Yet I know that people do get it, because everyday I talk with friends and strangers or coach people who share these struggles. Maybe when the Today Show airs their piece (depending on the spin) it will start to be talked about even more.
I’m often misunderstood as someone advocating a neo-luddism. Those who know me know that actually I’m a big time iPhone-carrying, podcasting, blogging, social-network connected geek. I just look forward to the time that, in my life and at large, we can move onto a more mature use of technology. One that doesn’t suck all our time, energy, and creativity away form the things that make us most deeply human.
Anyway, if any of you wants to see some more pix or videos, or to share ideas and get support, please feel free to join the Humanity 2.0 social site over at humanity2point0.ning.com.
There are also some pix over on my flickr account (wonderosity).
Warmly,
Leif
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February 12th, 2008 at 6:10 pm
After reading your blog entry, I think I’m going to try this too… my boyfriend thinks I spend way too much time online, and I’m hoping it will help us to better our relationship.
Sara
February 12th, 2008 at 10:52 pm
I’m late to the party on this one, but for ruminating on how much more I could get done without YouTube, Flickr or blogs to suck me in, I’m going to Unplug one night a week too. I hope my first time goes as well as yours did!
Elle
February 13th, 2008 at 1:51 am
I’m so up for this. I was just discussing this the other day. We have four computers in our house and three televisions. Only three people live here. I was discussing how many hours a day we are sucked into the television or worse, surfing the net while watching tv and texting on our phones. Yes, multi tasking is great, but I think we, personally, are way over doing it! So, one night a week would be a good start for my semi disconnect!
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Kevin
February 13th, 2008 at 7:45 am
I’m in too. I had canceled cable a few months back to reduce screen time for my whole family, but I have replaced watching crappy TV shows with reading crappy web sites.
I’m giving up screens one weekday night per week and will fill the time with (book) reading, board games, and talking with my wife and kids.
Lauren
February 13th, 2008 at 11:20 am
I’m definitely up for joining this! I think it’s a great way to be more productive during the week–at least for a night. Thanks for a great idea!
(P.S. I linked to this site on my blog. Hope you don’t mind!)
frank
February 15th, 2008 at 7:18 am
doing data entry by day (w/ a scanner etc) and being a part-time online student at night… it think this would do me a world of good = besides i always seem to have enough reading to do. good idea, one step at a time. my old landlord and i were takin once and we were talking about americans and stuff (he was from india) and he said we medicate (drugs, alcohol etc) b/c we do not meditate. maybe try even squeezing in a half an hour being mindful of doing nothing…
laurie
February 15th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
oh wow. I’ve been trying to figure out how to use the computer less and watch tv less and this is perfect! i love the idea of taking one night off a week. everything in moderation!
count me in.
SolShine7
February 22nd, 2008 at 2:56 pm
It sounds like you’re observing the Sabbath, minus the praying to God part (which you may be doing, I don’t know).
Sometimes the best way to interact with Jesus is through writing in your paper journal, taking walks, dancing and even scrapbooking. Simple activities like those cause us to slow down, think and reflect on the very essence of our lives.
I feel very close to God when I’m admiring a sunset or writing a letter to appreciate a friend. The Bible says all good things come from Heaven. The Sabbath is God’s “unplugged” day for us.
I really like your fresh approach. Keep up the good work!!!
Eric
March 10th, 2008 at 12:11 am
I’m going to try this too. I’ll be posting about it to my blog, not that anyone here really cares about that. Wednesday nights starting at 5PM it is.
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Marijean
May 27th, 2008 at 2:31 pm
Mentioned your weekly blogging hiatus on our corporate blog — thanks for setting a great uplugged example for your fellow Internet addicts.
(we met at BlogHer when I admired your dress)
Vision
July 6th, 2008 at 10:26 am
I need to do this myself, but I have such a hard time not at least checking “things” online. But once I do this I find several hours have passed. It would be a challenge for me