Daily affirmations of a word mercenary
I wrote this for my friends at Vain to post on their blog, but I wanted to share it here, too
I’m a marketing manager in my mid-30s. I work on the Eastside in a windowless office where I do stuff like social media campaign strategy (zzz), PR planning (*blink blink*) and mulling the return on investment of corporate communication strategies (yawn!). I go to tech industry conferences and speak about public relations (honk-shooo).
…I also have bright pink hair.
Almost three years ago, I made an appointment with my beloved Jenny Slay, who’s been doing my hair ever since I hacked off my rainbow dreadlocks in 2001. In late 2005, my hair was long, straight and medium brown, and I told Jenny “I like it long, but I’m bored with my natural color. But I hate doing root maintenance! I want less boring, but low maintenance.”
Jenny’s solution was to bleach the tips of my hair, and then dye the ends with Special Effects’ Atomic Pink. So, for the last three years, the bottom six inches of my hair has been flamingly bright pink.
It’s incongruous, I guess: a 30something professional with pink hair. But honestly, the pink hair fits perfectly into my professional life, and I wish more established professionals would go for wild colors.
Here’s a short list of why:
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Hey there. I'm Ariel Meadow Stallings, a native Seattleite who's written my way up and down the Left Coast. Electrolicious is where I post daily randomata, but I also write for a living. My first book, Offbeat Bride, was published last year.
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Erin
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:47 am
That’s the coolest, most original way to have the best of both worlds I’ve ever seen. Your hair is awesome.
ginevra
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:10 pm
the other weird thing I found was that people treated me nicer with pink hair than blue hair, and different people have responded (I haven’t quite figured out what the response -is-) to me with dark hair (serious business!) than with white-blonde (california surf bunny!)
I can’t wait to find you at a tech conference, though. that’s an awesome signal flag.
ByJane
July 3rd, 2008 at 12:20 pm
Don’t underestimate the braids as part of your branding.
mykie
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:21 pm
you’re so awesome ariel! and i love your hair!
heather
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:52 pm
It would be fun to have wild hair, but my employer would never allow it. My best friend in college went a year with blue hair, and she totally pulled it off.
Kate L
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:20 pm
I’ve had weird-colored hair for 6 years now (blue & purple for a year, then green for the rest), and I agree with everything you said. Maybe it’s because the software industry is more open than others, but I’ve never had a problem because of the color, not even heard a negative comment.
I’d add one more piece of advice, though: keep your hair *healthy and clean*. It’s one thing to have my nice green curls, and entirely another to have over-bleached straggliness or stinky dreads. It’s easier to take me seriously upfront when my hygiene isn’t in question.
amy.leblanc
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:31 pm
as a punk-haired professional myself, i wholeheartedly agree, and will also add this on the same note as the overcompensating bit: keep your hair and color in good condition. my hair is a hella unnatural shade of red, but it’s clean, shiny, and generally looks like it’s well cared for and i get plenty of positive compliments from the people i work with. i think if you’re going into the office with faded out hair color, your roots showing, fried-looking strands and serious bedhead, it’s much harder to get away with and be respected for.
amy
July 3rd, 2008 at 2:51 pm
Slightly off topic, but — wow! I was really impressed by your PR industry video. Your answers were so well-thought out and articulate, even though I imagine you must have been answering on the fly. Shows you are really on top of your PR game.
(It was of some professional interest to me, too, since I’m still finding my legs with a fledgling problog. May have to pick your brains at some point)
Ariel v.
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:31 pm
Great post, this about sums up my attitude on being both a yuppie and a freak. I no longer have the colored hair, but I don’t hide my outside interests and I don’t talk pretty - and I can get away with all this because I frackin’ rock at what I do.
I think this may be in part because I live in a liberal west coast city. I think it would be much harder to get away with on the east coast, where things are still a bit more formal in the professional world. I remember when I had partially pink hair, my sister, whose professional acculturation has been in Washington DC, felt strongly that it didn’t reflect a professional image and that she could never get away with the same thing there. I think she has a point, but I think she may also be the one showing up hung over.
Matt
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:56 pm
now for the real trick: for a guy to do the same! Being a guy, I think its easier for a woman to pull this off. Feel free to call me out on that one, though.
With short hair (if a guy has long hair, he’s already got the funk!), you can’t hide the color. also, the male executive grey-hairs look down on it more.
It just requires more awesomeness, i guess.
Ariel
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:16 pm
I’ve got to agree with everyone who brought up keeping wild hair well-maintained, clean, and tidy. I actually meant to include that in my piece, but forgot. If you can’t maintain it and keep it looking right, get rid of it!
Also, it’s true that wild hair is easier A) on the west coast B) in the tech industry. Since I wrote this for Vain (my hair salon in Seattle) I wrote it with a Seattle readership in mind.
Ben
July 4th, 2008 at 12:10 am
i love having my hair dyed - it’s like i’m always wearing a funny hat.
Jenne
July 4th, 2008 at 7:50 am
I’ve been doing the bright haired thing for a few years now (though I’m really lazy and never do my roots or redo the color) and it’s great. I love being able to break people’s expectations of the weird kid. They expect me to be a surly punk and then I talk to them and they get confused. I even had to fight my high school principals over my right to include it in the yearbook and I won! Now I’m the only non-bland person in the whole yearbook. Weird hairs FTW!
heather
July 4th, 2008 at 8:59 am
i think you have some good points in there, but after years of being a hip kid in college/high school, it’s kind of nice to be known for something OTHER than your hair, clothes, etc. for YEARS i had a few signature physical manifestations of my personality, but after a while i got tired of being summed up by them. whenever people didn’t know who i was, i’d be described as “the girl who wears the X” or whatever, and that gets old.
when i work, i want to be known for my work - not first for my hair/outfit/tattoo/piercing, and second for my work, or know that i will ALWAYS be described as the woman with the blue hair/eyebrow piercing or whatever!
Cristen
July 4th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
I’ve been wary about embracing my own want for wild hair because us curly haired folk always get seen as having wild hair as it is, but also because I stress with how it will mesh with the image of being a teacher. But the last school I taught at, there was actually a teacher there who put flamingo pink highlights in her hair. I think it’s all relative, really, to the image you put out there as a person. Like you said - being prepared to work harder to balance out for having wild hair. I sort of want to take the time to test the waters at my new school before I make any kind of bold statements like that.
lily
July 4th, 2008 at 5:57 pm
i heart your hair.
don’t change a thing.
jacq
July 5th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
i have pink streaks in my hair - they’ve been there for a year. and the thing that i find most amazing is that it makes strangers happy. seriously, they stop me, grinning huge grins and tell me that they love my hair. and they actually mean it.
which is just not what i expected.
and - it takes years off you. i’ve gotten carded multiple times since i went with the pink. and i’m 36.
nice.
Alison
July 6th, 2008 at 4:36 pm
I think that the majority of your points are very true and timely. There seems to be a desire for self expression & originality in the work place today. With job availability on the decline, I’d say it demands it. Whomever has the brightest plumage wins.
On that note, I am nominating you for PETA’s ‘Sexiest Vegetarian Blogger’ award.
Lindsey
July 7th, 2008 at 5:45 am
Awesome post Ariel. I had wild hair in high school and college, but have kept it my natural color since graduating three years ago. And I’ve been missing the crazy color.
I have a question for those of you who have gone from natural to wild during the middle of a particular job. Did you tell your boss or co-workers prior to the dye job that you were going to look different soon? Did you double-check with your boss to make sure it was OK? Or did you just do it, and show up with the new look? Thanks!
Sugared Harpy
July 7th, 2008 at 10:08 am
I’m a professor with pink hair. It helps that I’m in art history, because we are blanketed with the art department. Art history conferences are much more conservative and I stand out more, but never seemingly in a negative way. I think for your reasons I get away with it: be good at your job, be in your 30s or older, etc. A nice surprise has been my students, I think the hair lets them know I’m approachable right off the bat.
As for changing it mid-job, Lindsay, I did it. I didn’t ask, either. I was also with this department for two years first so I knew our “office” culture could handle it.
I totally agree with what Jacq said…it makes people happy! I’ve never had so many elderly women come up to me since I had little babies. They, in particular, LOVE it. The best thing ever said to me came from a woman over 80:
“And people think old ladies dye their hair blue on accident! Ha on them!”
Sara
July 7th, 2008 at 3:14 pm
I love the pink tips!
A friend bleaches a white streak in her dark hair (on the side) and most people just think it’s an “anomaly” of her hair growth. I’ve been thinking about doing a crazy colored streak up the back of my head, so it would show if I wore my hair in a twist. Maybe…
Rebecca P.
July 11th, 2008 at 7:51 pm
Word, lady. As winner of the “musical hair award” (read: weird ‘do) for my platinum-streaked hair at a corporate job in 2001, I’m with you on all points. I’ve seen some great examples of corp-appropriate-yet-creative looks coming out of VAIN lately, esp fauxhawks by our stylist Valentine, so thanks for representin’!